Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication: A Guide to Improving Relationships

nonviolent communication relationships Feb 28, 2023

“What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself
and others based on a mutual giving from the heart.”

― Marshall B. Rosenberg,  
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life


Do you ever feel like you’re not being heard when it comes to how you communicate with your loved ones? Or like no matter what you say, it doesn’t get through? Enter Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of nonviolent communication (NVC), a revolutionary form of communication that helps people understand each other better and build stronger relationships. Read on to find out more about Marshall Rosenberg’s NVC and how it can help improve your relationships.

What is Nonviolent Communication?

Marshall Rosenberg created nonviolent communication as a way to bridge the gap between people and create understanding. In the simplest terms, NVC is a way to communicate without judgment or blame, which makes it easier for both parties in a conversation to open up and express themselves in an empathetic way. NVC has four components - observations, feelings, needs, and requests.

Observations are statements that describe what is happening objectively. For example, “The room is getting louder and louder.” Feelings are emotions that you experience when something happens - in this case, “I feel overwhelmed by the noise in the room.” Needs refer to basic human needs such as acceptance or appreciation - for instance, “I need some peace and quiet so I can focus on my work.” Finally, requests are asking for something specific from another person - like “Can we lower our voices so I can concentrate?”

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Marshall Rosenberg also introduced two distinct modes of communication - Giraffe mode (NVC) and Jackal mode (criticism). Giraffe mode focuses on expressing yourself without judging or blaming others while Jackal mode involves attacking or blaming someone else for their actions or words - e.g., “You always do this! You never listen!” Using Giraffe mode allows people to connect with each other more deeply because they are able to express their thoughts honestly without fear of being judged or attacked.

Marshall Rosenberg was a psychologist who used his own unique style of therapy based on nonviolent communication to help his clients resolve conflicts peacefully and build healthier relationships with each other. He wrote many books about NVC including “Nonviolent Communication: A Language Of Life," which explains how everyone can use this powerful tool for connection and understanding in their everyday lives. He was known for using stories from his own life experiences to illustrate how peaceful dialogue can be effective even when dealing with challenging situations. His work has inspired many people around the world who now use NVC in their daily lives as well as in professional settings such as mediation sessions or therapeutic practice.


Overall, Marshall Rosenberg's nonviolent communication provides an effective tool for understanding one another better and improving relationships between individuals or groups of people. It emphasizes honest expression without judgment or criticism which helps create empathy between two parties involved in a conversation/conflict resolution session/mediation –thereby providing them with an opportunity for deeper connection with each other ultimately leading towards improved relationships. By using Giraffe language instead of Jackal language emotional intelligence increases resulting in better outcomes from conversations making it easier for people to understand each other's perspectives better thus bringing harmony into interpersonal interactions. Therefore if you want to get closer emotionally with someone then give Nonviolent Communication a try! It just might change your life!

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